It’s Not Better. It’s Different.

If there’s one thing I want every young African thinking of relocating to know, it’s this.

Let me repeat something I say over and over.

It’s simple, but it might save someone years of disappointment, confusion, and late-night “Was this even worth it?” conversations.

If you have been following me for a while, you know I speak openly about the realities of relocation.

I am loud about stripping away the glossy filters and confronting the misconceptions we have co-created as a community about what it means to “make it” abroad.

We have glorified living overseas to the point where it feels like a status symbol, a finish line, a golden ticket.

But the truth?Relocation is not a reward. It’s just another chapter.

It is not the destination—it’s just one possible route in the larger journey of our lives.

That is why I keep sharing honest stories.

Not to discourage—but to ground.

To prepare,,especially for young African people who see relocation as the ultimate upgrade.

But I also want them to be ready to expand and have the most fun out of the experience. Yes, I said fun.

Relocating to another country is not better. It’s just different.

And I know, I know—it feels better at first. The visa clears. You land in a place where trains run on time. You are earning in dollars, euros, pounds, or Canadian dollars. And yes, it looks like a lot when you’re sitting at home and converting those currencies.

But when you live in that country?

The reality is often different.

The cost of living is high. Rent alone can eat up half your salary. Groceries, transport, childcare, taxes—none of it comes cheap.

Even with a good job, you might find yourself working just to live—without a savings cushion and not experiencing the “upgrade” you imagined.

So yes, there are parts of your life that will undoubtedly improve. Maybe you’ll gain structure, personal safety, a functioning public transport system, exposure, and stability. But some things will certainly suffer—quietly, slowly, and deeply.

You might miss family milestones. You might find it hard to make friends. You might feel like you're constantly starting over, never quite fitting in. You may begin to doubt yourself in ways you’ve never done before.

It all comes down to trade-offs.

And if no one names them for you, you’ll end up comparing a filtered version of “abroad” with the full reality of “home.” That’s not fair to either place—or to you.

So if you’re planning to move, Do It. But do it with clear eyes.

👉🏾 Know your why.

👉🏾 Define what you want to get out of your relocation.

👉🏾 Understand what you’re willing to let go of—and what you’re not.

👉🏾 Build a vision that fits your values—not someone else’s highlight reel.

Because there is no perfect place. Every country has its blessings—and its costs.

Your job is not to chase “better.”Your job is to design a life that works for you.

So, if you know someone looking at relocation as a glow up opportunity , share this with them.

Not to scare them but to ground them.

So they can move with strategy, not fantasy—and get the most out of wherever they are going.

Different can be beautiful. But only if you are prepared for it.

Because moving countries isn’t just about passports and paperwork.
It’s about protecting your peace, planning with vision, and honoring the woman you’re becoming.

✨ I’ve created a space for Afro-global women relocating with purpose.
Real talk. Clear frameworks. No fluff.

If you know someone preparing to move, send this their way.
We’re not just crossing borders—we’re claiming new ground.

🖤 Join us.